What “State” is Your Joint Venture Partner In?

By being aware of the “State” your JV partner is in, you can avoid a lot of frustration, and save much time and money.

First, be aware of the basic three ego states we learnt about from Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis: Parent, Adult, and Child.

People in a Parent State talk down to others, want to control others or nurture others. They feel like they’re parents and everyone else is their children. This is their ingrained and conditioned voice of authority, patronizing and critical.

People in a Child State are emotional, reactive, manipulative, and immature.

People in the Adult State are objective, proactive, responsible, disciplined, and secure.

Naturally, you want to deal with people who predominantly live in an adult state.
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Second, you find some people who live in the Triangle of Victim, Rescuer, or Persecutor states.

People who feel like they’re Victims usually have an “employee mentality” – they whine and complain, do as little as possible, don’t take responsibility and take as many unearned benefits as possible. They are reactive and pathetic. They want someone else to do the work.

People who are Persecutors are continually attacking and blaming.

People who are Rescuers spend their time with victims, so that they can feel better about themselves. This is typical of the passive-aggressive, socialist type who needs victims to rescue in order to feel powerful.
Naturally, you don’t want to deal with people who live in these states either.

You are looking for mature, confident, and ambitious JV Partners who seek to reciprocate, contribute, and enjoy long-term, win/win relationships as equals.
Robin J. Elliott www.DollarMakers.com